Category Archive: PTSD and Relationships

Jun 08 2017

Nine Reasons a Person with PTSD May Be Incapable of Meeting Their Partner’s Relationship Needs

People sometimes ask me for help to gain some understanding of, get back together with or be a better partner to their partner with PTSD. Sometimes, the first thing I mention is, “Maybe they’re incapable of being in a relationship right now.” There are a couple ways of looking at this idea. First, the person …

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Oct 16 2015

Being in a Relationship with Someone with PTSD – A Video Game Analogy (Pt. 1)

Sometimes using an analogy helps enhance understanding. What if you met someone with PTSD inside a video game? What would their Big Boss look like? What kinds of Side Quests would they be going on? How would this affect your life if you are their partner and trying to play the Relationship video game with …

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Dec 03 2014

How PTSD Disrupts Relationships – Part 3 – “Come Close To Me! Get Away From Me!” Push-Pull Dynamic

Things have been changing very fast ever since I found a Somatic Experiencing Therapist. When I began SE therapy on October 23 (2014), I was trying to unravel 22 triggers causing me to feel fear in relation to my boyfriend (sorry boyfriend). By doing SE therapy, I was able to reduce the 22 triggers by …

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Nov 18 2014

How PTSD Disrupts Relationships – Part 2 – 50 Ways PTSD Undermines Intimate Relationships

In How PTSD Disrupts Relationships – Part 1- The Relationship Foundation we looked at some ways PTSD may affect the foundation, the basement and floor, of a relationship. Now I want to look more at how PTSD affects the “relationship house” that two people build on the foundation. The relationship house consists of the day-to-day …

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Nov 09 2014

How PTSD Disrupts Relationships – Part 1 – The Relationship Foundation

Do you remember when you were little and you first met a friend? Maybe your best friend? I remember just knowing that this person was good, and just knowing we would be best buds. I didn’t feel afraid of them. I wasn’t terrified that maybe affection or kindness from them secretly meant they were going …

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