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Oct 08 2018

Blame the Victim Part 5 – New Age Blame the Victim

The daily battle trauma survivors are engaged in is many times completely not understood by people who have not been traumatized. The thing is, this lack of understanding makes total sense. It Makes Sense for a Non-traumatized Person to Blame a Traumatized Person for Their Symptoms It would be natural, without the proper training, for …

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Oct 08 2018

Blame the Victim Part 4 – Trauma Symptoms Are Not Victims’ Fault

Although they can be Managed, Ongoing Trauma Symptoms Are Also Technically Not The Trauma Survivor’s Fault There are patterns in the way human physiology responds to trauma. Research suggests the nervous system was created with in-built mechanisms that get turned on in response to trauma. Physiological reactions to triggers, even years after the events, are …

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Oct 08 2018

Blame the Victim Part 3 – 14 Signs You May Blame Yourself

Have You Unconsciously Internalized Blame the Victim Mentality Without Knowing It? This is a checklist of items to reflect on for trauma survivors. They don’t mean you necessarily have internalized any blame for the traumatic events or for your symptoms, but it’s possible. These are just things to think about. You could possibly have internalized …

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Oct 08 2018

Blame the Victim Part 2 – The Harm Done

15 Ways Blaming Trauma Survivors Harms Them “Self-blame is by far, the most devastating after effect of being sexually violated. This is particularly true for former victims of child sexual abuse and adult victims of sexual assault. In fact, ninety percent of rape trauma recovery is undoing a victim’s tendency to self-blame. Ten percent is …

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Sep 29 2018

Why it’s So Crucial to Unburden Trauma Survivors of the Blame-the-Victim Mentality

“It wasn’t your fault.” This is such a healing, repairing message for trauma survivors. In our society, all too frequently the conversation around a traumatic event shifts to the victim’s character, choices, faults, etc. as if to imply that something done to them was their fault. This is almost always untrue and it is harmful, …

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Mar 08 2018

Why I’m Starting a Writing Practice to Heal from Grief and Trauma (Poetry: “What I Want My Words to Do”)

I haven’t written for my blog in a long time because I haven’t had the spirit to write; I’ve been exhausted, sick and depressed most of the time over the winter. The weight of the trauma and PTSD crushed my writing spirit entirely. So, I’m going to jump start my writing spirit not by trying …

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Dec 01 2017

The Art of Healing Trauma Coloring Book-Look Inside the Book

The Art of Healing Trauma Coloring Book is here! I haven’t been able to write for my blog for months as I created this coloring book. It’s been many, many hours of working on the illustrations and copy – definitely a labor of love! Here is the Book Description: Slow down, tune into yourself and …

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Jun 08 2017

Nine Reasons a Person with PTSD May Be Incapable of Meeting Their Partner’s Relationship Needs

People sometimes ask me for help to gain some understanding of, get back together with or be a better partner to their partner with PTSD. Sometimes, the first thing I mention is, “Maybe they’re incapable of being in a relationship right now.” There are a couple ways of looking at this idea. First, the person …

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May 11 2017

Wolf Fur, A Poem To Soothe Anxiety (Read This to Calm Yourself Down and Increase Self-Presence)

Be very still like a cat waiting on a mouse, like the snow blanketing at dawn. Quieting. Breathing. Allow the cords of pain writhing to stop, to yawn, to gaze at shadows dancing on a safe child’s ceiling; allow the panicked what-ifs squeezing your mind to hold teacups instead and to contemplate the steam rising …

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May 04 2017

13 Reasons Why: The Positive and Negative Effects on Someone Frequently Suicidal due to PTSD

This article discusses suicide. If you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide please call the National Suicide Prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255. They are very nice people and really do help. You can also Text “START” to 741741 or chat online with someone at the Lifeline Crisis Chat. Trigger Warning: The topics of suicide and rape are …

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