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Oct 08 2018

Blame the Victim Part 2 – The Harm Done

15 Ways Blaming Trauma Survivors Harms Them “Self-blame is by far, the most devastating after effect of being sexually violated. This is particularly true for former victims of child sexual abuse and adult victims of sexual assault. In fact, ninety percent of rape trauma recovery is undoing a victim’s tendency to self-blame. Ten percent is …

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Sep 29 2018

Why it’s So Crucial to Unburden Trauma Survivors of the Blame-the-Victim Mentality

“It wasn’t your fault.” This is such a healing, repairing message for trauma survivors. In our society, all too frequently the conversation around a traumatic event shifts to the victim’s character, choices, faults, etc. as if to imply that something done to them was their fault. This is almost always untrue and it is harmful, …

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Mar 08 2018

Why I’m Starting a Writing Practice to Heal from Grief and Trauma

I haven’t written for my blog in a long time because I haven’t had the spirit to write; I’ve been exhausted, sick and depressed most of the time over the winter. The weight of the trauma and PTSD crushed my writing spirit entirely. So, I’m going to jump start my writing spirit not by trying …

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Dec 01 2017

The Art of Healing Trauma Coloring Book-Look Inside the Book

The Art of Healing Trauma Coloring Book is here! I haven’t been able to write for my blog for months as I created this coloring book. It’s been many, many hours of working on the illustrations and copy – definitely a labor of love! Here is the Book Description: Slow down, tune into yourself and …

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Jun 08 2017

Nine Reasons a Person with PTSD May Be Incapable of Meeting Their Partner’s Relationship Needs

People sometimes ask me for help to gain some understanding of, get back together with or be a better partner to their partner with PTSD. Sometimes, the first thing I mention is, “Maybe they’re incapable of being in a relationship right now.” There are a couple ways of looking at this idea. First, the person …

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May 11 2017

Wolf Fur, A Poem To Soothe Anxiety (Read This to Calm Yourself Down and Increase Self-Presence)

Be very still like a cat waiting on a mouse, like the snow blanketing at dawn. Quieting. Breathing. Allow the cords of pain writhing to stop, to yawn, to gaze at shadows dancing on a safe child’s ceiling; allow the panicked what-ifs squeezing your mind to hold teacups instead and to contemplate the steam rising …

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May 04 2017

13 Reasons Why: The Positive and Negative Effects on Someone Frequently Suicidal due to PTSD

This article discusses suicide. If you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide please call the National Suicide Prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255. They are very nice people and really do help. You can also Text “START” to 741741 or chat online with someone at the Lifeline Crisis Chat. Trigger Warning: The topics of suicide and rape are …

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Mar 22 2017

My Story – The Day I Saw Beyond the Whirlwind (Creative Writing About PTSD)

It’s Story Time! Story Time is when I look through my Journals and find creative writing pieces describing what it’s like to have PTSD and share them with you. This Story has to do with how PTSD changes perceptions of reality. March 21, 2017 Today I noticed the siding. The siding of the apartment outside …

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Feb 16 2017

The 8-Step Immobility Healing Exercise – How To Turn Immobility into a Door to Healing Past Trauma

If you find yourself frozen in immobility, what should you say – and what should you not say – to yourself? What can you do to help yourself get out of it? Today I Felt Paralyzed This morning I felt like I didn’t want to get up. It wasn’t voluntary. I didn’t decide I wouldn’t …

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Dec 30 2016

Resiliency Building “Help Now!” Activities

Help Now! Activities are ten quick, simple, practical and easy to remember activities designed to get you back into the Resilient Zone if you need help now! because you’re either too amped up (high zone) or too checked out (low zone). This helpful set of resiliency building strategies is taught in Community Resiliency Model (CRM) trainings. …

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